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Columnist emphasizes importance of understanding others

By Brooke McAfee

It seems to me that people are so often caught up inside their own minds they forget to truly see other people. They may listen to the words others say and notice what is on the the exterior, but true understanding of what is going on in another’s mind frequently escapes them.This does not necessarily mean someone is uncaring– everyone has been guilty of this form of blindness. We become so entangled within the complex maze of the mind — and all the worries, excitement, and responsibilities that preoccupy us — that we forget to look for what is concealed beneath the surface of other people.

I am constantly aware of how little I truly reveal of what is going on in my mind. It is a part of my personality I have struggled with for years. When I keep my thoughts silent, misunderstanding and disinterest inevitably follow me. Yet I am equally guilty, because I often retreat too far into my mind and become distant with those around me. All it really takes is for us to listen harder and look deeper. Yet sometimes this can be the most difficult thing in the world, with all the layers of false sentiments, hidden feelings, and insecurity which often lay upon the surface.

We encounter countless numbers of people in our lives, but how many do we really get to know? Knowing a person goes beyond simply chatting with them on a daily basis. There are people I may have known on a basic level for years, but I cannot honestly say I know them. When I get to know a person, I want to learn what makes them who they are and what they think and believe, not simply the day to day events of their life, their plans for prom, or the latest gossip they have overheard. I want to understand people, rather than just be acquainted with them.

Without understanding a person, I believe we are more naturally inclined towards judgment or indifference. Perhaps the person who comes across as obnoxious only acts in such a way because they are too accustomed to being ignored, and the person with an unpleasant attitude is the victim of depression. Ignorance and misunderstanding can only lead to harm, whether intended or unintended. Compassion, which is rooted in understanding, is something we need much more of in the world.

Humans will always wish to hide their flaws and weakness, and people will always be perplexed about how to accurately express themselves. We will never fully know another’s mind, but we should certainly make efforts to do so. The people who say little often are the ones who have the most to say, and it is essential that we show interest in hearing what is on their mind, and seeing what may not be immediately obvious. If we do not make attempts to understand one another, there are many who may go through life believing they are not worth listening to. We simply need to take the time to notice what is right in front of us.

#SPEAKOUT: Columnists shares lessons learned from sibling

By Danielle Sheally

There comes a time in everyone’s life when a best friend or sibling backs down their driveway to start the next chapter in the journey of life and, until they’re gone we don’t realize how much they really affected our lives. My brother Willie always connected with people well. He was the person that automatically made a awkward situation feel totally comfortable and, for the class of 2013 he was definitely one of the most recognized people.

As I look back on our time together, two things my brother taught me that are imporant are: stay confident in any situation, and always form some kind of relationship with the people in our lives.

For me, staying confident in certain situations helps me rationalize with the issue at hand. For example, if I have to do the project that involves public speaking I always try to get interested in some aspect of the topic. That way the project is easier to talk about. If it something I’m really not interested in though I always try to crack a couple jokes related to the topic so it allows the crowd and I to become more relaxed.

Forming relationships with teachers and colleagues is something that I always try to do, because it may come to help when I least expect it. The relationship also help me know what kind of personality my teacher of friend has so, if I want say something I know whether to refrain from saying it or not. It’s always good to have if you just want to blow off steam.

 

So, my brother may not realize it right now but, he’s actually really helped me in my life.

#SPEAKOUT: Kum Ba Ya during the holidays

By Danielle Sheally

Dec. 26th, the most unhappy day in the world.

During any big holiday, everybody help each other and it seems like all the people in the world turn into one big family.  We ask about your family, ask how we are doing in school, etc.  We take extra time out of our schedules to help the homeless, feed the hungry, and collect money for the sick. Maybe because we feel like if we do a couple good deeds during the holidays that we are good for the rest of the year?

If we’re being honest with ourselves no one volunteers as much as they should. I think volunteering isn’t really part of our nature so when the holidays come around we automatically think “Oh my gosh have I given enough of my spare time.” When that answer is no, we automatically go into the state of thinking that we need to volunteer 50 billion hours in one day. Personally, I believe volunteering is built on the basis of when we feel it in our heart, do it. Don’t do it just because a holiday rolled around.

Volunteering truly is fun. When we give a helping hand you get to see the gratitude spread across the faces of the people we’re helping. They could be totally down in the dumps but, when we help them it could turn their day sunny side up. Lending a hand doesn’t have to be manual, it can be as easy as just spending some time with an elderly person talking or picking a handful of trash so the custodians don’t have to clean so much.

I’m passionate about this because what if we actually did pay it forward. Imagine how much kinder people would be. Instead of being envious of others we could actually be happy for them when they achieve their goals. What if schools around the country had a National Volunteering Day and we cleaned the school in teams. We may miss a day of academics, but imagine the lessons of paying it forward we would learn.

What are you going to do when your hand is needed?

 

Columnist reflects wasted time

By Blake Dykes

6 a.m.: Take a shower, blow dry hair, put on makeup, eat breakfast, brush teeth, and get dressed.
7:18: Leave to go to school.
7:35-2:26: School.
3 p.m.: Homework, pitching/hitting drills and or lessons.
6-8: Softball conditioning.
8:30: Eat dinner.
9: Any additional homework and watch TV.
10: Go to bed.
Next day: Repeat.

For the most part, I am fairly content with my life. I am a creature of habit and have to have things certain ways. Lately, though, I’ve just been itching for a change. It just seems like I wake up every day, go through the motions, just to do the exact same thing the next. Granted, there are always occasional things that get switched around, but for the most part I lead a pretty boring life.

In the past I’ve always blamed my boredom on the state, saying things like, “As soon as I’m old enough, I’m leaving Indiana and never looking back. It’s so boring.” Although, later I began to think and came to the conclusion maybe it’s just me, I’m the problem. I mean I go to school with hundreds of other people, and most of them seem to be having a pretty good time. Their lives can’t be that much different than mine.

I decided to ask one of my more cheerful friends that always seems to be in a good mood how she stays so happy all the time, doesn’t she ever get bored or sad? She simply told me this: “Life is just what you make it. It can be full of unforgettable memories that you relive over and over again in your head, or you can just get by, doing what is expected of you, but never enjoying it.” This made me think a little bit. I decided that I was going to start trying to make the most out of everything, any situation that came my way, I was going to look on the positive side and always try and stay upbeat. I suppose for a few days it worked, but faking happiness doesn’t get you too far. I then just decided to accept the fact that my life was boring and there was nothing really I could do about it.

About a week later I found out that my aunt had cancer. Not just in one spot, but cancer throughout her entire body. I was of course shocked, and instantly felt terrible. I assumed that she would be extremely upset and probably lock herself in her bedroom, sulking in fear and sadness for the short time the doctors had estimated that she would live.

However, it turned out to be just the opposite. When Thanksgiving rolled around, all of my relatives came over to my house. My aunt was sitting in a chair, chatting with all of my other family. I had imagined that she would be horribly sad, possibly thinking that this could be her last Thanksgiving, or even her last holiday ever. Shockingly enough, she was smiling, laughing, and just having a great time. I learned that she insisted on going to work and kept up with her daily routine.

This awful disease may have taken over her body, but she wasn’t going to let it take over her life. I thought it was rather odd that such a sick person was so happy. It then struck me that she was happier than I had seen her in a long time, and no doubt much more happy than me.

I was able to draw the conclusion that sometimes we take life for granted, but that it’s not until our life is in jeopardy that we really live out each moment, enjoying the simple things.
Don’t wait until your days are numbered to start living your life.

Columnist begins car restoration

By Jared Hinderer

Four years ago I had no idea that a conversation I had with my uncle, while watching Mythbusters at 3 in the morning, would lead to one of the most rewarding experiences of my life so far.

During an episode when the hosts of the show were sifting through cars at a junkyard (trying to find a suitable car for a James Bond myth), I mentioned to my uncle how I thought it would be cool to get an old beat-up car and fix it up to be show-worthy.  He agreed and said it would be a good experience for me and nonchalantly said to me, “Be on the lookout for something cool, like a Mustang or Camaro. I’ll keep an eye out too.” I did not think much of the comment; I mean, who was really going to buy a car for a 13-year-old?

I was hopeful, though, so I looked in the local papers every once in a while, but never really found anything, and eventually kind of left it alone.

Finally, I got a very surprising phone call from my uncle. I picked up my phone and the first thing I heard was, “Hey, I bought you a car; where do you want me to drop it off?” Astonished, I was finally able tell him to have it delivered to my grandpa’s shop where I had the space to work on it.

In fact, he had actually bought two cars. Two Ford Mustang coupes; a 1965 with a 6-cylinder motor and a 1966 with a 289 V8. He gave me first choice of whichever one I wanted, then he would keep the other for himself. For those of you that know cars, you know the choice was obvious, so I requested the V8.

That is the story of how I got it; now here is the story of what I did with it:

With the financial backing of my uncle, grandparents, and parents, I ordered a mountain of parts for it.
However, the first thing I did to the car was tear it down. I removed the bumpers, glass, grille, interior, everything. Upon removing the interior I found the only real rust that the car had. The floor pans had essentially been eaten by rust to the point where they were no longer safe.

However, by old car standards, it was a very minimal amount of rust, which I was able to fix in a few afternoons.
Once I got the car apart I started the task of getting the motor sorted out. The car ran when I got it (although it could not move due to a locked front left brake), but it had a very bad fuel leak at the carburetor that needed sorting out before it was safe run.

With a new carburetor and some new fuel and vacuum lines, the car ran great, so the fun began with brakes.
I want to say right now that I am so happy drum brakes are obsolete these days. Maybe it was because I was 13 and had not fully developed the mechanical skills I have now, but it took me three months, working for 45 minutes a couple days a week after school, to get the whole braking system replaced. My grandpa showed me on one brake how to do it, then essentially handed me the tools and said, “Do the rest.”

Prior to my endeavor of finishing the brakes he gave me the best advice I have ever hear for doing any sort of mechanical work: “Take your time and note exactly how you take everything off.” Then he told me I was on my own and that I would have no help. Too bad I did not heed his advice

After a few weeks of working after school I had finished the rear brakes. Proudly, I summoned my grandpa to inspect my work. Upon my summoning, I could tell he was trying his hardest not bust out laughing. When he and I both were looking at the job I had done, he calmly said to me, “Is that how it looked when you took it off?” After studying it for a minute, I started to think to myself and finally said, “Wait a minute! Did I do it all backwards?” He erupted in laughter and told me he had been watching me do it wrong the whole time, but wanted it to teach me a lesson. It did.

After I fixed my mistake, I went on to put on the front brakes, convert the car to a power brake system, and replace all of the lines. Once that was done, and a few other smaller projects, it was time for body and paintwork.
The car came to me in a nasty flat red primer color, without a single fender, door, or any other panel lining up. My uncle sent out someone that had done the paintwork on his Corvette to get a quote on what it would cost for the work to be done on my car, and to see what color I wanted the car painted. Naturally, I wanted red. But, not just red, I wanted “red that is brighter than the brightest red you can think of.”

Nine months and 9000 dollars later I had an almost-new looking 1966 Ford Mustang (sans interior) sitting in my garage. And might I add that it was, indeed, brighter than the brightest red I could think of.

Unfortunately, due to a lack of time on my part, that is where the car sat for over about a year with nothing done to it.

Finally, work began once again on it again. I got new wheels and tires for it, a decently rare set of five 1967 Mercury Cougar XR7 GT styled steel wheels with brand new Mastercraft tires, and got it back on the ground so I could get to sorting out the issues it developed from sitting so long without running. A new battery and some fuel treatment got it running again, barely, and a gas leak and transmission leak still remained. Fortunately, those two issues have seemed to go away on their own now that car is driven more.

This brings it up to 2012. In the past few weeks, I got it registered, insured, and plated, so it is road legal. I also gave it a tune up, adjusted the idle, installed a new modern distributer, and a new, upgraded ignition coil. I am happy to report I now have a Mustang that runs like new. I almost cannot believe how well it runs for being an original 46-year-old motor.

This has been a rewarding experience, and one I will never forget. From here on out, I will provide updates on my progress with the car in the final steps to the end of my restoration, and my further endeavors with my beloved classic. Please check back as I provide my periodic updates and enjoy the photos.

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