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Writer requests respect

By Darian Eswine

Graphic by Summer Haynes

Chivalry: courteous behavior, that of a man towards a woman.

Simple definition. Theoretically it would be simple enough to carry out this behavior. Courteousness should not be hard. It’s just a boy being nice to a girl which to me sounds like a natural act; however, a chivalrous man is now a dying breed.

These days, a lot of women want to do everything for themselves. I still believe you can take care of yourself and let the man be the man.

I am not a feminist and I want to be taken care of in certain ways. I want my knight in shining armor, I want to be saved from the tower, and I want to ride off into the seemingly endless sunset after romantically being saved from an unrealistically perilous situation.

Although slightly cheesy, it provides me with the most satisfying end to my life story. Now my message to boys out there is: you are brutally annihilating my dream. I’m speaking generally here; not every single boy is impolite to women, but the numbers do seem to be increasing.

I cannot provide a reason for the dwindling acts of chivalry being seen in the school hallways and in the world, but I can provide a few simple tips, other than the basic opening doors and pulling chairs out, to transform you into the Prince Charming every man should be.

1) Be buff, carry stuff

Books are just the beginning to this courteous act. A guy can carry books, backpacks, and food. Yes, food. If a girl is at a restaurant and she gets take out, it would be appropriate for the man to go up and get the order even if it’s not his order. No, I don’t mean some random guy at McDonalds should go get the girl’s food. This only applies to girls who are with the guy at the restaurant. A man can carry shopping bags, heavy boxes, and the list goes on and on. It is a simple act that could brighten the day.

2) Put a cork in it

Inappropriate language is just that: inappropriate. It does not belong around a girl. I could say so much more on this topic. Curse words, slang, sexual references, and sexist jokes all are to be kept out of earshot of women, and preferably never said…at all. Girls should have clean mouths as well, but that is another problem for another day. Think about what you say before you say it and the world of men will be a better place.

3) Walk this way

This is the number one most forgotten rule of chivalry. It dates back to the horse and buggy age where men walked on the side of the road closest to the buggies. That way, if a wheel splashed a puddle or a horse went rabid, the male would be on the protective side of the woman. This applies to modern times as well. Some women might not even recognize this, but I do. It makes me have a much higher opinion of the man if he moves purposefully to put himself in between me and the cars.

For 18 years I have watched my dad treat my mom with these basic courtesies. I fully expect my male friends, boyfriends, and future husband to treat me with the same respect.

Men were meant to take care of women and I am nothing if not conventional. These three tips coupled with basic good manners will show you are a respectful, courteous gentleman and will most definitely help you win your princess.

Writer gives ideal political situation

By Garrett Receveur

The national debt stands at over 14 trillion dollars. Unemployment stands at 9.1 percent. The global economy is eroding away. New York City Mayor Michael Bloomberg warns that, as riots engulf Europe, New York City may be next.

The time for solutions to solve these problems is now. Barack Obama is entering the last year of his first term as president with disapproval for him and his administration rapidly increasing.

If Obama wants to remain in the White House for another term, he has to make significant headway in bringing our nation’s problems under control. He has to stop golfing and start leading.

It now seems that Obama is trying to come up with a viable solution.

His proposal is focused on eliminating three trillion dollars from our national debt over the next decade. Plans include a heavier tax on the wealthy, reductions on Medicare, and removing troops from Iraq and Afghanistan.

These proposals to fix our country are in danger of falling into a partisan trap with Republicans trying to mar Obama’s image by destroying every facet of Obama’s proposals and with Democrats willing to pass anything to keep Obama in the White House.

Obviously, this is a gross over-simplification of the matter. There are proposals that Republicans agree with and some that Democrats disagree with.

There are going to be disagreements with Obama’s plan on both sides of the political spectrum, no one denies that. However, these disagreements need to be on the basis of what is best for the country, not on what voters want.

What this country needs now is a non-partisan approach to solving this economic crisis. Rigid party lines are more of a high brick wall, blocking progress in the right direction.

I am non-partisan. To be specific, I am economically conservative and socially liberal. I believe that the best way to solve this national debt problem is to cut spending and raise taxes. In addition, I am pro-life and pro-gay marriage.

My political beliefs combine those of the Democratic and Republican parties. Democrats are, for the most part, pro-gay marriage and pro-raising taxes. Republicans, on the other hand, are more pro-life and pro-spending cuts.

We often judge people based upon their political affiliations. We often associate Republicans with backwoods rednecks who speak with an unintelligible Southern drawl and Democrats with blind politicians concerned more with their public image than with doing what is best for the country.

Often, our particular party affiliations bind us with metaphorical blinders, happy with any action our party does and decrying any action the opposite party does. Sometimes, our party affiliations even cause us to sulk and take an axe to the television when a president from the opposite party is elected.

That happened to me in 2008 when Obama was elected. In the days before the election, I would often engage in intense political debates with my friends about why Republican John McCain would make a better president than Obama.

On Obama’s election night, I continuously pinched myself to make sure I wasn’t dreaming.

In the years since Obama’s election, I have warmed up to him and other Democrats. Do I still think that Democrats are a curse put on mankind? No, absolutely not. Democrats and Republicans both have certain platforms I agree with and certain positions I don’t.

Regardless of our political affiliations, we must try to do what is best for our country in the months leading up to the 2012 election. If keeping Obama in the White House will solve this debt and jobs crisis, I hope you all will join me in cheering when he is reelected. If, however, Obama proves that he needs to go, I hope we will all cheer for his replacement with as much enthusiasm.

I think former president John Kennedy put it best when he said, “Let us not seek the Republican answer or the Democratic answer, but the right answer.”

Now is not the time to fill Congress with one political party. Now is the time to put people who know what they’re doing into power in order to fix this crisis.

Sarcasm sabbatical

By Meghan Poff

Graphic by Chase Palmer

One week:  no sarcasm.

It really shouldn’t have been so problematic for me.

As sarcasm is practically my native tongue, I could see how this could create a language barrier between me and my peers. But I didn’t think it would be that difficult. And after all, it would create the opportunity for me to see life from a more optimistic point of view.

And of course, I had the support of my friends.

Friend: “Meghan this is such a joke. I do not even know why you are wasting your time. You are just too mean of a person to not be sarcastic.”

But I proceeded to, “waste my time” anyway. And what I came to find after one week, is that everyone is a downer.

To enable myself to pass through the week without a cynical remark passing my lips, I concurred that I would drown my cruel remarks with enthusiasm and forced zeal.  As a person that has been labeled as a “Debby downer” and a “Negative Nelly”, I assumed that my positive change in attitude would be a pleasant surprise to everyone at school.

Naturally, I assumed wrong.

Day 1:

Me: “Good morning Baylea! It’s nice to see you today!”

Baylea: “I’m going to pretend like you didn’t just say that.” (*Turns away)

Day 2:

Nick: “Get out of my way. You are blocking my locker.”

Me: “Oh sorry Nick, I feel really bad. I’m always in your guys’ way. I’ll try to not be so intrusive.”

Nick: “Shut up.” (*Walks off)

Day 3:

Me: “Hey Tyler. You look nice today.”

Tyler: “You know, I am getting pretty tired of this no sarcasm thing. It is really annoying.  Don’t talk to me until the week is over.” (*Leaves)

So by the week’s end, I went home with a broken self-esteem, a bruised ego, and a declining faith in human kindness.  My mom told me to stop complaining and take an Advil.

So with one item on my bucket list done, there is only one moral to the story.

People are mean.

Personalities persuaded by peer pressure

By Danielle Rehor
Acoustic Thoughts
I am sitting in class, surrounded by robots. Teens who look the same, act the same, talk the same, and treat others the same way. No, this is not the opening scene from the next science fiction movie. This, boys and girls, is real life.

When we are little, we are bombarded with ‘just be yourself’ and ‘I love you just the way you are.’ So we proudly march out to the bus on the first day of kindergarten with our Winnie the Pooh backpack and clothes that probably do not match. As we step into the elementary school, we see billions of kids milling around with their friends, and we think. ‘This is not what I signed up for. Where are my friends?’

Quickly, we learn to ‘adapt.’ We change to please people and make friends. I call this survival of the fittest. What our world categorizes as ‘succeeding’ is a multitude of ‘friends,’ a look similar to pop stars, and money. Maybe that is also what you categorize as success, but I believe there is more to it.

I have had many friends from middle and high school who have been taken and twisted by the grasps of society to become the ‘social norm.’ They believe they must conform to an idea of skin and bones, raccoon eyes, bleach-blond hair, and booty shorts to truly be ‘someone.’

But in reality, the someones are just that: someone. Not just anyone. People that I consider ‘not just anyone,’ or someones are those that go out and do something for themselves, be a first, do something different, and are not willing to conform to fit in. Those are the someones. They do not obsess over who is their friend and who is not. They do not concern themselves with seeming cool. They have the confidence to make their own decisions and be their own person.

My question to you is: how much of your personality is lost in trying to fit in?

We are born with certain quirks, some adorable, some not as much, but do we try to embrace these quirks or instead shrug them off? Personalities are to be embraced. They make us who we are. Our morals and personality are all we have of value. They are what we will be recognized and remembered for, not what brand of clothing we wore, or if we were up to date with trends. We have to remember what is going to stay with us for the rest of our days: what we do and what we say.

Someone who clearly has himself figured out is Apple figurehead Steve Jobs. This quote really embodies what we should strive to do. “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

We are all different, but what we do with our peculiarities is up to each and every one of us. Are you going to stand out with courage or instead blend into the background, being just another ‘everyone else’? If you think rationally, we all fall short of being someone’s imitation.

We are best being ourselves. Not a carbon copy of anyone else.

Graphic By Summer Haynes

Profiling in airports necessary for America safety

By Eli Bolus
 
For as long as I can remember, going through airport security has taken longer for my family than most.
The last time I went through airport security it was one day before school started.  After I picked up my  bag and handed over the “dangerous” weapons I carried on my person like nail clippers and bottle of hand sanitizer,  I looked over to see Transportation Security Association agents searching a large Middle Eastern looking man for weapons or other illegal paraphernalia.  This man was my father. He is not the first to be “randomly” searched and he certainly will not be the last. My father, like many others that look Middle Eastern or have Middle Eastern names said the “random” searches got especially bad soon after the terrorist attacks on Sept. 11, 2011.  Flying was not an option just because of the looks people would give my father;  people universally feared him.

Over the last decade the hostility decreased, but it is definitely still there.  It takes the form of the random searches the T.S.A. performs on a regular basis.

Fifteen years ago my father’s name was just a name, but now it is a brand.  People know that a name with a Middle Eastern root is a warning that this man is dangerous.  T.S.A. agents know to search people with Middle Eastern names like my father because of what stereotypes lead them to believe.  Now my father’s name is more than just a name; it is a curse.

These searches do not bother my father in the least.  He, more than anyone, understands how important they really are.  It actually bothers him more when they search people like my 80-year-old grandma.  They are obviously no threat, so T.S.A. agents are only trying to avoid offending someone.  Acting like you are not profiling may be actually worse than profiling.

Regardless of a person’s “feelings,” safety needs to be our number one priority. This may mean adding an extra 20 minutes to our travel time, but this is for the overall safety of fellow Americans.  So if that means racially profiling must take place in airports among other places, then so be it.

Some would say profiling is ignorant and outdated, but there is no other way to ensure the safety of our country without some form of it.

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